Holy Relationships

“It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.”  This is Ralph Waldo Emerson’s description of the deep nature of relationship between ourselves and our fellow human beings. If you desire peace for others, you’ll receive it. If you want others to feel loved, you’ll be the recipient of love. If you see only beauty and worthiness in others, you’ll have the same returned to you. You’ll only give away what you have in your heart, and attract what you’re giving away. Your impact on others—whether it be strangers, family members, co-workers, or neighbors—is evidence of the strength of your connection to the power of intention. Think of your relationships in terms of holy or unholy.

Holy relationships facilitate the power of intention at a high energy level for everyone involved. Unholy relationships keep the energy at the lower, slower levels for all concerned. You’ll know your own potential for greatness when you start seeing the perfection in all relationships. When you recognize others’ holiness, you’ll treat them as divine expressions of the power of intention, wanting nothing from them. The irony is that they become co-creators manifesting all your desires. Want nothing from them, demand nothing from them, have no expectations for them, and they’ll return this kindness. Demand from them, insist that they please you, judge them as inferior, and see them as servants, and you’ll receive the same. It is in your best interest to be acutely aware of what you truly want for others, and to know whether you’re in a holy or an unholy relationship with every person you’re involved with.

One truth I’ve recognized during the years of my own growth is that it’s impossible to know my perfection if I’m unable to see and honor that same perfection in others. The ability to see yourself as an expression of intention and to see yourself in all of humanity is a characteristic of the holy relationship. It’s the ability to celebrate and honor in all others, the place where we’re all one.

FILED UNDER: wayne dyer, relationships, power of intention, ralph waldo emerson, giving, receiving, compensations

Wake-Up Call from Heaven

In my movie The Shift, I talk with the film crew about “quantum moments” and the changes that people undergo after having one of these awakenings of spirit. Thousands of people have reported experiencing these moments and describe the following shift which occurred in their awareness of life. They talk about having made the move from an ego-driven life perspective to a spiritually balanced one and feel that they have become more authentic beings.

Two research psychologists from the University of New Mexico, Dr. William Miller and Dr. Janet C’de Baca were intrigued by such stories of sudden and unexpected personal transformation. For their book, Quantum Change: When Epiphanies and Sudden Insights Transform Ordinary Lives, Miller and C’de Baca collected stories of people who reported having “quantum moments” and studied the experience of “quantum change” through the lens of scientific psychology. They describe quantum change as “a vivid, surprising, benevolent, and enduring personal transformation.” These quantum moments that turn life upside down are characterized by these four qualities; that is, they are vivid, surprising, benevolent, and enduring. They are intense enough for us to notice every detail and to remember them forever. They are surprising—unexpected, uninvited, and unforeseen. Quantum moments are benevolent, in other words, they come with feelings of peace, serenity, and bliss. The fourth quality of a quantum moment is that it never goes away. That moment is burned into our consciousness in a vivid picture that won’t be forgotten. I’ve heard it described as being like a warm shower running inside of you whose gracious imprint endures into infinity.

My earliest books focus almost entirely on psychological tools to help readers employ effective commonsense approaches to problems. There are no references to God or a higher self in the first 15 or so years of my publishing history. Today, my values and my writing reflect the shift that took place later in my life and writing career. Before encountering my quantum moments, my life was shaped much more extensively by my ego. It’s easy to see why a quantum moment would be seen as turning life upside down. It’s a complete shift away from the pleadings of the ego and back home to desiring a God-realized life of peace, family, love, and personal honesty. I commend William R. Miller and Janet C’de Baca for their groundbreaking research, and I highly recommend that you check out their book. I guarantee that you will find it as fascinating as I do.

FILED UNDER: wayne dyer, quantum change, quantum moment, shift, transformation, spirit

The Perfect Gene Diet

This week a new book becomes available that I was privileged to discover just when I needed it most. I have heard it said that a coincidence is nothing more than God hiding behind a cloud and smiling. Well, the day that Pam McDonald and The Perfect Gene Diet came into my life, God was not only smiling behind that cloud, but I’m certain that he was winking and clapping for having arranged such a fortuitous meeting.

Pam and one of her colleagues had come to Maui in the hopes of meeting me and sharing some of the enormous successes they have had in treating patients with serious disease via the new integrative-medical science, in combination with the teachings I’ve been speaking about for the past 35 years. They didn’t know exactly where I lived, so they both followed their intuitive knowing and simply waited in the grassy area near the beach in west Maui where I live part-time. On the day we met, I had just returned from a visit to a medical team and had been informed that I was living with a medical condition called Chronic Lymphocyte Leukemia (CLL). Someone or something smiling from behind the cloud urged me to go outside and take a walk on a path that I had never taken before at a time when I had never exercised before. As I walked, my mind in a quandary, I met up with Pam and her colleague Kim. We spoke for a few moments, and Pam and Kim shared the excitement they felt concerning their work and how my own life’s work had been so instrumental to them in applied integrative medicine.

In times of need, God can come to you in a myriad of disguises. After talking politely for a few moments, I simply blurted out what I’d just learned about the leukemia diagnosis, and Pam said to me without hesitation, “I thought I came here to share our findings, but obviously I was sent here to help you heal your own body.” Since that day, Pam McDonald, the author of this life-changing—no, life-saving, book—has been my constant integrative-medicine practitioner, and has personally guided me to a whole new level of mind/body health.

This book is loaded to the gills with specific information that will indeed transform your life in so many ways. Basically, the book is well written and professionally researched in order to be of assistance to anyone embarking on a healing path. Pam prescribed the correct treatment, along with dietary recommendations that would serve to reduce my cellular inflammation and put me back onto a regimen of well-being in harmony with my own genetic blueprint.

Pam sends me messages and updates on a regular basis to remind me to stay on the path of The Perfect Gene Diet. It is the love and higher consciousness in these remarkable women who researched and wrote this book that I want to acquaint you with. Pam is not just an integrative-medicine nurse-practitioner, but she embodies the idea that when people with serious chronic conditions such as heart disease, Alzheimer’s, leukemia, diabetes, and so on become aware, they need not stay stuck in the progressive deterioration that accompanies these chronic illnesses. Their symptoms can and will begin to disappear, and they’ll start to look and feel better.

Pam McDonald has gone from being a stranger who had used my work in concert with her own, to being the single most significant person—medical or otherwise—who has helped me get and stay on a dietary regimen perfectly compatible with what God had in mind when he brought this body of mine into this physical world from the infinite, formless world of Spirit.

FILED UNDER: wayne dyer, pam mcdonald, perfect gene diet, chronic illness, heart disease, diabetes, alzheimers, leukemia, diet, integrative medicine

Measuring Your Worth?

If you’re presently evaluating your level of achievement based on how much you’ve accumulated, here’s a way to make a major shift in your state of personal satisfaction and contentment. Verse 46 of the Tao Te Ching invites you to discover a more peaceful and self-satisfying way of knowing success. “Contentment alone is enough,” says Lao-tzu. “Indeed, the bliss of eternity can be found in contentment.” As you let go of the determination to acquire more, your new views will change the world you’ve known. You’ll find that the experience of inner peace becomes your true gauge of accomplishment.

The “disease of more” has created an environment that personifies Lao-tzu’s observation that there is “no greater tragedy than discontentment.” When you truly understand what it means to live peacefully, satisfaction will begin to replace your desire for more. Your world will begin to become tranquil as you change your own life and then touch the lives of your immediate family, your neighbors, your co-workers, and ultimately your nation and the entire planet. Begin by simply thinking of the opening line of the famous Prayer of Saint Francis when you notice that you’re demanding more of anything.

Silently say, Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace. As that instrument of peace, you’ll radiate tranquility to those in your immediate surroundings, and you’ll feel the flicker of a new and different success in contentment, perhaps for the first time in your life. By refusing to lose the Tao, regardless of what others may be doing and what our world’s governments elect to do, you’re living harmoniously. Your connection to the Tao will make a difference, gradually inching the Earth away from the precipice of discontentment.

When your feet hit the floor every single morning, without exception, say, “Thank you for an opportunity to live in a state of contentment.” Invite the magical energy of the Tao to flow freely through you and inform your responses throughout the day. You’re in harmony with your Source when you’re soliciting gratitude and gratification in these ways. Set aside time each day to consciously send peaceful energy into the world, especially to anyone you see as an opponent or competitor, anyone you disagree with. Find authentic success by practicing gratitude and contentment each day.

FILED UNDER: wayne dyer, tao te ching, lao-tzu, contentment, peace, success, st. francis, gratitude